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  • Help with the "L" word....

    How soon is too soon?  I have been dating this guy for about 5 months and I am pretty sure that I am ready to say it.  However, I do not want to be the one to say it first.  I know that is bad, because he could be having the same anxieties, but the last time I said it I got hurt really badly, so I am hesitant.  Also, if he says things to me like "i like you" in person and in text messages, does that mean that he is further from loving me than what I think he is?? Or could it just be that he might want to say the big L word, but is scared and chickening out??  Why cant this be easier?

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    • By stacey9
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  • It's Not Complicated. .

    Love is only ever as complicated as you make it.

    If you feel it, say it. Because in the end, if you didn't you'll regret it.

     

    It's important to let people know how you feel about them.

     

    If you're still jumpy over the L word, try talking to him about it.

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  • Re: Help with the "L" word....

    I know exactly where you are coming from. I have been with my boyfriend for 7 months and once we were together for 6months I had fell in love with him.  I was and am so sure of it. I told him and the response I received was I feel the same way.  I told him a couple of times after that and got the same thing but I have still not heard him say those words.  I was very upset about it originally but after some thought I realized that I can not put a time limit on someone elses feelings.  I know how hard it is to open up to others and I also know that he has trouble expressing feelings, So now I am patiently waiting...........

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    • By ladybug
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  • Re: Help with the "L" word....

    Well... Maybe don't say it!

    Maybe write it!  Write it on his bathroom mirror!  Or someplace it cannot be missed.  And dont just say "I love you" That smacks of, how do you say?  Stagnation?  Try, "I have fallen in love with you" It is sweet and less heavy. 

     

    Good luck!

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    • By CMTustan
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  • Re: Help with the "L" word....

    He FINALLY said it.  And then I asked him how long he has been feeling that way, and he said that it has been since the summer!!! Ugh, oh well though, he said it, I said it and we could not be any happier! <3

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