I have one daughter who is 5 years old and last year i have just started college again to become a social worker. I have one year left to get my associates in human services but want to get my bachelor's degree first before having more children. I also want to be married first or atleast engaged. My man has been wanting more kids too but i feel like my dream has been put on hold before because i have to stay home with the kids and wait for them to get in school for me to do anything with myself. My dream has alway been to graduate college but i feel if i keep going on to college and with my biological clock ticking i will never be able to have more kids if i keep trying to pursue my dream of a bachelor's degree. I feel i can alway go back to college but i cannot always have children. What do i do? Do i put my dream on hold of finishing college to have more children or do i stick it out and wait?
I have met my male best friend way before i met my new man. I went to high school down south so one day he called me up to let me know he will be coming my way for the weekend and wanted to see me. I told my boyfriend and he said ok. He seemed like everything was cool. But when i was showing him about town he kept calling me and started to make me feel real uncomfortable like he didn't trust me or something. If you read my first blog you would know why. I told him you knew of this person from the start because he was still calling me when we first got together. Me and my guy best friend never was a couple. He's married but he tells me so married men cheat too. I just told him well if he ever wants to come back to town and wants me to show him around again then you are going to have to deal with your insecurities. I'm i wrong?
I have been with my man for 13 years. not married or engaged. Co-habitating. That is a whole nother issue i have with that but 5 months ago a saw a text in man's phone flirting with a girl and i was very upset. I just felt betrayed and hurt because i never gave him a reason to feel like he has to emotionally cheat on me. That is what i call it. He tried to deny it at first but then when i told him i saw the text message he had to come out and tell me the truth. He text the girl and let her know he cannot text her anymore. it is becoming between him and his family. Before that he has been making comment on his facebook page and i made him delete his whole page. You would thinking i would be happy he ended the emotional affair but i still have a lot of resentment towards him. He tells me he only did it because he wanted to see if he still got it. I told him you shouldn't care about how other woman sees you. It should only matter what i think of you. I feel after 13 years i should be happy and planning a wedding. I don't even know if i feel like getting married anymore. So do i even feel the need to stay or should i try to get some couple counseling and fight for my relationship?
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